Well, hello there and thanks for surfing my wave!
As unemployed people of the increasingly jobless world, we have many battles on our fighting field, and none of our choosing.
First, we have to do whatever is humanly (and sometimes not) possible to gain employment which alone is a full-time job. Second, we need to deal with all the fallout, both personal and professional, related to having lost the paycheck. Then there’s the job of having to balance all this chaos and prioritize what is to come first, and what can be left to smolder a bit more without sparking another fire in the already nauseated bellies of our by now knotted gut. For many of these complications, water will not slake the flare ups.
As I write almost daily, I am faced with precisely what you are faced with; what do I do and when do I do it? My topics vary from how to approach and execute your job searches to my personal life traumas to pausing for a moment and reacting to all that surrounds us and again to how we best handle all this. None of it is easy.
Unanswered Questions of the Unemployed.
Today I am overwhelmed by all of it and don’t necessarily know where to turn – sound slightly familiar? Do I tackle my suspension of unemployment insurance benefits? No, I can’t because I have to wait another 2 weeks for my phone interview – out of my control for now. Do I embark upon the journey to reestablish my lines of credit that were pulled? No, I can’t because that is also out of my control as I have no income in which to properly pay down those lines, although as you can see by this website I am working hard to establish revenue sources. Do I sulk over what was and what could have been? No, that’s dead and gone – what’s the point? I am relentlessly working at making my marriage and family environment a healthier one because that I do have control over, but it’s an uphill climb all the way.
My point here is to recognize that we are human beings and as such are subject to frailties just like everyone else. Oftentimes we are unable to answer our own questions, but we must be willing and insistent that we ask them of ourselves; write them down to aide us with future answers. Understand that all learning and knowledge comes from the question. All answers in life are based on what questions we ask. Please don’t influence a question merely to obtain the answer you are looking for; that wouldn’t be truthful or fair to yourself.
Right now I have more questions than answers. I believe a phenomenon exists that it’s always easier to answer someone else’s questions than your own – I guess it comes from the expression of being too close to a situation. Well, we are clearly too close to our situations individually. Let’s ask questions of each other and engage in dialogue with one another to help guide us through this crisis.
I can help you, and by doing that I help myself in return. Quite possibly by answering your questions, I can answer many of mine and we both help ourselves in the end.
“The essential question is not, ‘How busy are you?’ but ‘What are you busy at?’ ‘Are you doing what fulfills you?’”
~ Oprah Winfrey
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